"Last I heard, y'all niggaz was havin sex/ with the SAME sex /I show no love, to homo thugs/ Empty out, reloaded and throw more slugs/ How you gonna explain fuckin a man?/ Even if we squashed the beef, I ain't touchin ya hand..." - ES
Homophobia is interesting to me, especially in this day and age. It is not acceptable for it to show itself in overt form, so many people just use words such as "gay" and "fag" to describe certain people or situations (unfortunately I do not excuse myself from the "many people"). But there are certain people who just repeatedly keep using those words or cracking jokes. So it got me thinking about the reasons for homophobia.
Homosexuality represents being secure. Coming out is extremely difficult and you have to be damn confident in yourself to do this. You need to be secure in your decision and your actions. Imagine breaking the news to your conservative family... it would be grueling.
I believe homophobic people are very insecure of their own identity(ies) (mentally, emotionally, socially, sexually, etc.). Subconsciously, they resent gays because the latter are secure enough to at least be true to themselves and make a valiant attempt at happiness. There may even be jealousy involved. Homophobic people think to themselves, "what right does this freak have to be happy when I am not?"
It is sad but I think for the most part this is true. How many friends do you have that make gay jokes all the time or use those words all the time, always followed by an "I'm just kidding" at the end of it. Are they though? Or are they just showing their true colors.